I guess it is the season I am in that is why all I hear people speak about is marriage. And really the things I hear are absolutely incredible even as unbelievable as some of them sound.
For a yet to be married guy like me too much of these stories are tending towards the bizzare. A young wife found stabbed to death by her husband. A young man married for about 7 years sunddenly lands in hospital because his wife tried to get him out of the way; there was someone already waiting to marry her.
And there's the woman married for almost twenty years and she only enjoyed the first 6 months of the marriage! That is the 'craziest' thing I have heard about marriage in a long time. How can you be in a marriage where there is no intimacy? No passion? Geez.. I almost feel like cursing. But then I have never been married so what are the issues that could have caused this failed marriage. Oo yes it is a failed one since all they share is the same roof and ok the same surname.
For a marriage to succeed the two parties to the contract must agree on three levels spiritual, emotional and physical. A dearth in any, even one will ultimately lead to the death of that union. For what is a spiritual marriage without passion (physical)? What is a passionate marriage without the heart (emotional)?
None of these can be left to the fates... Absolute nonsense to think such. Maybe again I am talking off my head. One thing I know however is each and every requires commitment and a heart that puts the other before self.
Just my thoughts...
For a yet to be married guy like me too much of these stories are tending towards the bizzare. A young wife found stabbed to death by her husband. A young man married for about 7 years sunddenly lands in hospital because his wife tried to get him out of the way; there was someone already waiting to marry her.
And there's the woman married for almost twenty years and she only enjoyed the first 6 months of the marriage! That is the 'craziest' thing I have heard about marriage in a long time. How can you be in a marriage where there is no intimacy? No passion? Geez.. I almost feel like cursing. But then I have never been married so what are the issues that could have caused this failed marriage. Oo yes it is a failed one since all they share is the same roof and ok the same surname.
For a marriage to succeed the two parties to the contract must agree on three levels spiritual, emotional and physical. A dearth in any, even one will ultimately lead to the death of that union. For what is a spiritual marriage without passion (physical)? What is a passionate marriage without the heart (emotional)?
None of these can be left to the fates... Absolute nonsense to think such. Maybe again I am talking off my head. One thing I know however is each and every requires commitment and a heart that puts the other before self.
Just my thoughts...
If you notice most of these incidents happened in Nigeria. There is this pressure for young ladies to marry early so most of them rush into them without getting to know their partners.
ReplyDeleteMarriage isn't how it used to be, the intimacy and commitment isn't as it used to be. Only few people take marriage seriously, we just have to be careful and choose wisely i guess. :)
so true, right now the whole marriage issue is getting very scary everyday.
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